Loving Together: When Together Is Tough
This week’s devotions are based on Week 3 of Building Together: “Together is Tough!” (WATCH HERE)
Colossians 3:12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
It is easy to talk about loving one another when everyone gets along. Love sounds wonderful when relationships are going well. But what happens when someone hurts you? What happens when someone disappoints you, misunderstands you, ignores you, or simply gets under your skin?
That is when loving together becomes tough.
The church is made up of people who have been forgiven, but we are still sinners. That means we will sometimes hurt one another. We will say the wrong thing. We will make assumptions. We will hold grudges. We will become impatient. Sometimes we will be the difficult person in someone else’s life.
Paul knew this. That is why his words in Colossians 3 are so practical. He tells Christians to “clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Then he says, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.”
“Bear with each other” is not something we usually put on a greeting card. But it is a wonderfully realistic description of Christian life together.
Sometimes loving someone means bearing with them.
Sometimes it means being patient with a weakness that isn’t going away quickly. Sometimes it means overlooking an irritation that doesn’t really matter. Sometimes it means having a difficult conversation. Sometimes it means forgiving an offense that genuinely hurt.
And sometimes it means remembering how much we have been forgiven.
Paul gives us the reason for our forgiveness: “Forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
The Christian does not forgive because the offense was insignificant. We forgive because Christ’s grace is greater than our sin.
Jesus did not wait for us to apologize before He loved us. He did not wait until we became worthy before He gave Himself for us. “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” Romans 5:8.
That is the grace we have received.
And that is the grace we are called to extend.
Today, when someone tests your patience, remember the phrase that has been running through this week:
Together is tough. Christ’s love is enough.
When forgiveness is tough, Christ’s love is enough. When patience is tough, Christ’s love is enough. When serving is tough, Christ’s love is enough.
You don’t have to manufacture that love on your own. You have received it from Christ. Ask Him to help you give away what He has already given you.
Reflect: Is there someone you need to forgive, bear with, or approach with greater patience? How does remembering Christ’s forgiveness toward you help you extend forgiveness and grace to others?
Prayer: Dear heavenly Father, thank You for the forgiveness You have given me through Jesus. I confess that I am often quick to notice the faults of others and slow to recognize my own. When relationships become difficult, give me patience, humility, compassion, and courage. Help me forgive as You have forgiven me. Keep me from holding onto bitterness, and help me remember that Christ’s love is greater than every offense. Teach me to love others with the grace I have received from You. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Loving Together: Love Like Christ
This week’s devotions are based on Week 3 of Building Together: “Together is Tough!” (WATCH HERE)
John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
Jesus does not leave us guessing about what Christian love looks like. He gives us a model. “As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
The standard is not how kindly someone treats us. It is not how much we have in common. It is not whether someone has earned our respect or deserves our patience. The standard is Christ.
That can be a difficult command.
It is easy to love people who love us. It is easy to be patient with someone who is patient with us. It is easy to serve someone who appreciates what we do. But Jesus calls us to something deeper. He calls us to love as He has loved us.
Think about the disciples gathered around Jesus on the night before His crucifixion. They had spent years with Him, yet they still argued about who was the greatest. They misunderstood Him. They were slow to believe. They would soon abandon Him. One would betray Him. Another would deny Him.
And Jesus loved them.
He knew exactly who they were, yet He did not walk away.
That same night, Jesus washed their feet.
The One who had every right to be served became the servant. The One who knew He was about to suffer gave Himself for people who did not yet understand what He was doing. His love was not based on what they could give Him. His love flowed from who He is.
That is the love Paul points us toward in Ephesians 5:2: “Live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us.”
Notice the order. Christ loved us first. Then we are called to love.
This is important because Christianity is not about trying harder to make God love us. The Gospel tells us that God has already loved us in Christ. Jesus has already given Himself for our sins. We are already forgiven. We are already God’s dearly loved children.
Our love for others is a response to the love we have received.
So what might that look like today?
It might mean listening when you would rather speak. It might mean forgiving when you would rather hold onto the offense. It might mean serving when nobody notices. It might mean encouraging someone who is struggling. It might mean speaking a difficult truth with gentleness. It might mean putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own.
None of these things earn God’s favor. Christ has already secured that for us.
Instead, they are opportunities to let the love of Christ take shape in our lives.
Together is tough because people are not easy.
But Christ has loved us.
And because He has loved us, we can love one another.
Reflect: Where is Christ inviting you to show sacrificial love to someone today? How does remembering that Christ has already loved and forgiven you change the way you love others?
Prayer: Dear Jesus, thank You for loving me when I was undeserving of Your love. Thank You for giving Yourself for me and forgiving my sins. Teach me to love as You have loved me. Give me a servant’s heart when I would rather be served, patience when I would rather be frustrated, forgiveness when I would rather hold onto an offense, and compassion when I would rather look away. Let Your love shape my words, my actions, and my relationships so that others may see Your love through me. Amen.
Loving Together: See Them Differently!
This week’s devotions are based on Week 3 of Building Together: “Together is Tough!” (WATCH HERE)
1 Peter 3:18 “For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God.”
It is easy to see people through labels. We notice the person who is difficult. The person who is opinionated. The person who talks too much. The person who never seems to help. The person who hurt us. The person who sees things differently than we do.
We can begin to define people by the thing that bothers us most about them.
But the cross gives us a different way to see people.
Peter reminds us that Christ died “for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous.” That little phrase puts all of us on level ground. There is no category here for the people who need more grace and the people who need less. There are only sinners who need a Savior and a Savior who gave Himself for sinners.
That includes you. And it includes the person who is difficult for you.
Galatians 3:26 says, “You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus.” Paul goes on to remind us that those who have been baptized into Christ have been clothed with Christ. Our identity is not ultimately determined by our personality, our background, our accomplishments, our failures, or our differences. Our deepest identity is found in Christ.
Think about a family gathered around a dinner table. Every person at the table may be different. One may be quiet. Another may be loud. One may be organized. Another may be spontaneous. One may have strong opinions. Another may avoid conflict. They may disagree about plenty of things, but they are still family.
The same is true of God’s family.
The church is not a gathering of people who naturally fit together. It is a gathering of sinners who have been brought together by Jesus. Christ did not die only for the people who are easy to love. He died for difficult people too. He died for people who disappoint us. He died for people who disagree with us. He died for people who sometimes get on our nerves.
And He died for us when we were difficult too.
That changes how we look at one another.
The next time someone frustrates you, try seeing them through the cross. Before you see their irritating habit, see a person Christ loved. Before you see their mistake, see someone for whom Jesus shed His blood. Before you decide what they deserve, remember what Christ has given you.
This does not mean pretending that hurtful behavior is acceptable or avoiding necessary conversations. Christian love can speak the truth. But it speaks the truth remembering that the person standing across from us is someone God desires to redeem, restore, and draw closer to Himself.
The people who make life together tough are also people Christ died for.
And so am I.
Reflect: Who is someone you have been tempted to define by their faults or the way they have treated you? How might remembering that Christ died for that person change the way you speak to or think about them?
Prayer: Dear Jesus, thank You for dying for me, an undeserving sinner. Forgive me for the times I have looked down on others, judged them by their faults, or forgotten that they are people You love. Help me see others through the cross. Give me patience when people frustrate me, courage to speak the truth when it is needed, and compassion to remember that every person needs Your grace just as I do. Help us live together as Your forgiven family. Amen.
Loving Together: Dearly Loved
This week’s devotions are based on Week 3 of Building Together: “Together is Tough!” (WATCH HERE)
Ephesians 5:1 “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love.”
Have you ever watched a little child trying to imitate a parent? A father bends down to pick something up, and suddenly his son is doing the same thing. A mother says a certain phrase, and before long her daughter is repeating it. Children imitate the people they love and look up to.
Paul uses that picture when he tells us to “follow God’s example.” But notice where he begins. He does not say, “Become good enough to be God’s children.” He says, “as dearly loved children.”
That little word “as” is important. We don’t imitate God so that He will love us. We imitate God because He already loves us.
That is the foundation for everything we will talk about this week. Loving other people can be difficult. People disappoint us. They misunderstand us. They have different personalities, opinions, habits, and expectations. Sometimes they hurt us. Sometimes we hurt them. Together is tough.
But before Paul tells us how to live together, he reminds us who we are.
We are dearly loved children of God.
John writes, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1
Notice that John does not say we might become God’s children if we can get our lives together. He says, “That is what we are.”
How can sinful people like us be called God’s children? Because Jesus took our place. He lived the perfect life we could not live. He carried our sins to the cross. He suffered the punishment we deserved. He rose from the grave and gives us forgiveness and life. Through faith in Christ, we have been brought into God’s family.
Think about a child who wakes up each morning knowing that he belongs in his home. He does not have to earn his place at the breakfast table. He does not have to perform well enough to remain part of the family. He belongs because he is loved.
That is who you are in Christ.
You don’t have to spend today trying to prove that you are worthy of God’s love. You are already His dearly loved child. And when that truth settles into your heart, it changes the way you see yourself and the way you see others.
So when someone frustrates you today, remember that you are a dearly loved child of God. And remember that they may be too. The person who is difficult for you to love is someone Christ loved enough to die for.
We love because He first loved us.
Reflect: What difference does it make to you personally that God calls you His dearly loved child? Who is someone you find difficult to love, and how might seeing that person as someone Christ died for change the way you respond?
Prayer: Dear heavenly Father, thank You for making me Your child through Jesus. I know that I have not earned Your love and that I often fail to love others as You have loved me. Thank You for sending Jesus to forgive my sins and bring me into Your family. Help me remember today that I am Your dearly loved child. Help me see others through the eyes of Your grace, especially those who are difficult for me to love. Shape my heart by the love of Christ so that I may reflect Your love to the people You place around me. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Changing Together: Let Them See Christ!
This week’s devotions are based on Week 2 of Building Together: “Some Things Have to Go!” (WATCH HERE)
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
We’ve spent this week talking about Demo Day. We have looked at the things Paul tells us to tear out: futile thinking, the old self, falsehood, anger, destructive words, bitterness, and malice. But demolition is never the final goal.
The goal is to build something new.
Paul ends this section with some of the most beautiful words in Ephesians 4: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” These words give us a picture of what the renovated life looks like.
It looks like Christ.
That is really what Christian living is about. We are not simply trying to become nicer people. We are not renovating our lives so that we can impress God or prove that we are better than someone else. Christ has already forgiven us, claimed us, and made us His own. Now He is shaping our lives so that His love can be seen through us.
Jesus said in John 13:34–35, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Notice where Jesus points us when He tells us how to love. He points us to Himself.
“As I have loved you.”
Jesus loved us when we were unlovable. He served us when we had nothing to offer Him. He forgave sins that we could never repay. He went to the cross willingly and took the punishment we deserved. His love was not simply something He talked about. His love was displayed in what He did.
Now that same love begins to show itself in our lives.
When we forgive someone, we display something of Christ.
When we show compassion to someone who is hurting, we display something of Christ.
When we choose kindness instead of harshness, we display something of Christ.
When we speak words that build someone up instead of tear them down, we display something of Christ.
When we give rather than take, serve rather than demand, and listen rather than insist on being heard, we display something of Christ.
Peter reminds us that we are “a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession,” and that we are called to “declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light” (1 Peter 2:9).
That’s the finished house.
It isn’t perfect. There will still be things that need to be repaired. There will still be moments when the old self shows up. We will still stumble and need to return to the cross for forgiveness.
But the house is different.
Christ lives here.
His truth shapes us. His righteousness covers us. His Spirit works in us. His love flows through us.
And when people encounter us, our prayer is that they don’t simply see people trying harder to be good. We want them to see something of Jesus.
So as you finish this week, don’t just ask, “What needs to go?” Ask a second question: “What does Christ want to build in its place?”
Then look for an opportunity to let someone see Christ through you.
Reflect: What characteristic of Christ do you most want others to see in the way you live this week? ho is one person you could intentionally show kindness, compassion, forgiveness, or encouragement to this week?
Prayer: Lord Jesus, thank You for calling me out of darkness and bringing me into Your wonderful light. Thank You for forgiving me and giving me a new life in You. Continue to tear out the things in my life that do not belong, and build in me a heart that reflects Your kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. Use my words, actions, and relationships to give others a glimpse of Your love. May the way I live point people not to me, but to You. Amen.