Philippians 2:19-21: A Godly Friend Genuine Cares
Devotions based on week 6 of Joy in the Journey: Friendship (WATCH HERE)
Philippians 2:19 I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon, so that I too may be cheered when I receive news about you. 20 To be sure, I have no one else like him, who will be genuinely concerned about your welfare. 21 For, the others all seek their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ.
We live in a time when friendship can feel shallow. Friends are defined by a quick “follow” on facebook, an emoji, or passing acquaintances. Interactions are brief looking at digital images or AI generated responses to your posts. We believe that the 100 people who respond to our birthday reminder can count as friends and perhaps feel like we are valued by the number likes our vacation photos receive.
Is this the mark of a true friend?
Maybe even defining what a true friend is difficult.
However, I think most would agree that a true friend really knows you and is more than a passing digital remark.
The Apostle Paul speaks of his friend and Gospel partner Timothy with a characteristic that is hard to find, but is found in a true friendship.
“I have no one else like him, who takes a genuine interest in your welfare.”
Paul wasn’t impressed by status or charisma. He didn’t care if he got recognition on his birthday, he was tuned into and deeply moved by Timothy’s heart. What set Timothy apart wasn’t his talents but his genuine care. He didn’t treat people like projects. He didn’t connect with them to fill his personal ego or take from them for personal needs. He truly loved the people God had placed in his life and cared about their whole well-being—physically, emotionally, and most importantly, spiritually.
He REALLY wanted to know how they were doing.
Timothy took time to ask AND he took time to listen. Timothy took time to care AND to make sure the people around him were ok.
Why was this so different and stood out (shone like a star in the dark universe)?
Because most people look out for their OWN interests. Sadly it’s easy to fall into this trap. Life gets busy and we default to what’s convenient fo us.
Few engage in friendships and relationships to exhibit the interest of Christ. Timothy was one. His relationships were not about convenience but calling. His care was shaped by the love and mission of Christ.
In all his relationships, he wanted to model the attitude of Christ: Humility and love…genuine humility and love.
So, do you show genuine interest in your friends?
Ask yourself:
- Do I know my friends well enough to care for them in a meaningful way?
- Do I make space to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface?
- Am I just present in good times—or do I walk with them through adversity?
A godly friend takes a genuine concern in the lives of others.
Apply: Reach out to a friend—not with a quick “How are you?”—but with sincere intent to know and care for them. Ask about their spiritual walk. Offer encouragement or prayer. Let your care reflect the love of Christ.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, thank You for being the Friend who knows and loves me deeply. Help me reflect Your heart in my friendships. Give me eyes to see the needs of others, and the courage to care in ways that matter. Shape my love to look like Yours—genuine, sacrificial, and rooted in truth. Amen.
Strength for the weary.
Isaiah 40:27-31 Why do you complain, Jacob? Why do you say, Israel,
“My way is hidden from the Lord; my cause is disregarded by my God”?
28 Do you not know? Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom.
29 He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
30 Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall;
31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
As the after effects of a tragedy or hardship linger on, the challenge is to keep going and not give up. After only a week, the national attention on the Texas flooding has waned and the attention shifts to something else.
Hard things take our emotional, physical and spiritual energy. We can feel tired, drained and even despondent.
I love these verses from Isaiah 40 as the prophet just got finished speaking of what God would do to enemy nations, but also to Israel. It wouldn’t be easy. It would seem like God is absent and complaints would come easy.
So Isaiah reminds God’s people.
God doesn’t grow tired. He created this universe and sustains it.
God doesn’t forget about you. He knows each of you by name.
God doesn’t go weak on us. He is the one who is all powerful.
He gives us strength every day, but especially when we need it.
He gives strength to our soul to know that we are loved, known and deeply cared for.
He gives strength to our bodies by allowing rest and opportunity to recharge.
He gives rest to our emotions by inviting us to cast all our burdens and cares on him.
He has not forgotten.
He still loves you and cares about you.
What has happened is for you not against you.
He will give you daily bread…even as you try to figure out the future.
He will surround you with the right people at the right time.
He will give peace to your soul knowing your biggest problem in life is taken care of and ultimately heaven is your home where there will be no more trouble or mourning or pain or hardship or loss or heartbreak. It will be perfect peace with Him, the God who gives us strength to soar even when the challenge seems large and overwhelming.
Apply: What are you going through today that needs strength from the Lord? Ask him and see how he answers!
Prayer: Lord, when we feel forgotten or weary, remind us that You are the everlasting God. You never grow tired, and Your understanding is limitless. Renew our strength, Lord. Help us to wait on You with hope, to rise on wings like eagles, to run and not grow weary, to walk and not faint. Amen.
Picking up the pieces…
The flooding tragedy in Texas is slipping from the news headlines, but the search for the missing continues, the funerals for the deceased begin, and the families that lost everything are working to put together what the next season of life brings.
How do you move on?
As the shock of a tragedy wanes and the reality of the loss sinks in, one can begin to wonder, “How do I move on?” or “What is next?”
The memories and the trauma don’t go away. The loved one doesn’t come back. The history in your mind can never be erased.
Moving on is hard. Picking up the pieces of memories can be hard.
Let’s not underestimate the challenge. Let’s keep praying for peace for those affected and as we are able to offer assistance to those finding themselves in need.
Along with the practical, let me offer a few Bible passages of promise that help in any tragedy, personal or widespread. File these away. Use them personally. Share them with someone who is going through the heartache.
- Lamentations 3:22–23 (ESV)
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
In the middle of a book full of grief and mourning over Jerusalem’s destruction, this verse reminds us that God’s love and mercy remain constant. No tragedy can remove his love. No loss includes the mercy of God. You are loved.
- Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Sometimes in the middle of loss, we believe the lie that God has abandoned us. This is simply not true. This verse reassures us that God is near in our pain and that He cares deeply about our sorrow and suffering.
- Isaiah 61:1–3 (NIV)
“…He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners…
to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.”
Jesus fulfilled these verses and comes to bring us all we need: freedom, joy, and reason for praise. As we are connected with Jesus, we can anticipate that out of the extreme hardship, he will bring healing, restoration, and a new beginning, showing that God transforms grief into joy.
- 2 Corinthians 4:8–9 (NIV)
“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.”
Can you relate with these emotions: “hard pressed, perplexed, abandoned”? Tragedy seems overwhelming, and it can be. Hardship can confuse us. Suffering sometimes feels very lonely. Yet as Paul acknowledges these things, he also finds strength to be resilient and realized that he is not crushed, not alone, and not destroyed. With the strength of the Lord, it’s about enduring and rising again after being knocked down.
- Revelation 21:4 (NIV)
“‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
Tragedies we experience on earth, don’t have the final say. Because of the love of God and the life, death and resurrection of Jesus, we have heaven to look forward to. Our suffering, as difficult as it is is temporary. Our time with Jesus is forever. We have a future where tragedy is not the final say.!
Apply: Memorize one of these five verses and find one person to share it with who needs the promise of God amidst a season of hardship.
Prayer: Lord, in the midst of our brokenness, we cling to Your unfailing love. Restore what’s been lost, bind our wounds, and breathe new hope into weary hearts. Help us trust Your purpose, even in pain. Turn our mourning into joy, and remind us daily that Your mercies are new. You are near, and You make all things new. Amen.
Where is God in tragedy?
The following devotion is reprinted from Texas Floods: Where Is God in Tragedy? by Ken Ham on July 7, 2025
Across America, and in other places throughout the world, Texas is on people’s minds as they think of the terrible tragedy that occurred this past weekend from flash flooding in several Texas counties that has killed over 80 people so far, with many being young girls who were at a Christian camp.
Scripture tells us to share one another’s burdens, doing all we can to help such people.
We all try to put ourselves in the position of the parents or grandparents who lost a young daughter or granddaughter in this devastating flood. We just can’t imagine the grief from such a catastrophic loss. Scripture tells us to share one another’s burdens, doing all we can to help such people. And there are many such ways we can help materially and spiritually.
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)
I was watching a news program about this, and the reporters were saying people are asking, “Why would this happen?” and “Where is God in such a tragedy?”
Christians know that we live in a fallen world because of our sin. We understand that death is the penalty for sin, and all humans are under the judgment of death. We know that those who put their trust and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation will live forever with our Creator in a place where there will be no more death, no more tears.
But knowing all this still doesn’t take away the awful grief and what those who lost loved ones have to go through. And even when we know God is in total control, and as Christians we know we will see our loved ones again, during this life, we never get over what happened, even when we come to grips with it all.
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The words of Job (who suffered terrible loss and tragedy) echo in my head when I hear of such tragedies like the one in Texas, “Though he slay me, I will hope in him” (Job 13:15). I know it’s easy to say, but we are only human and still cry out, “why Lord?” And it’s ok to do that as we grieve and plead with the Lord for answers and help.
In a fallen world, all things are certainly not good.
In times of tragedy, Christians often quote Romans, “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). And this is true, but note it doesn’t say all things are good! In a fallen world, all things are certainly not good. But nonetheless, God is in control and uses all things for his purposes, as difficult as that is for us to understand. And certainly, for those going through such grief, it seems almost impossible that tragedies such as the loss of those young girls could be used for good.
But let’s stand back and look at all this from a big-picture perspective to see what God may be teaching us.
First, it’s a reminder of how horrible death is and the terrible separation one feels when a loved one dies. This should remind us of the terrible separation that occurred between us and our God because of our sin in Adam (Genesis 3).
But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God. (Isaiah 59:2)
A reminder that we need to be reconciled to our God through Jesus Christ, our Savior:
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. (2 Corinthians 5:17–19)
Secondly, it’s a reminder that no one is immune to death. The Bible makes that clear:
Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned. (Romans 5:12)
And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment. (Hebrews 9:27)
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But I also want us to look at this from an even bigger perspective. There are thousands of children who die each year in America from accidents, diseases, congenital malformations, and so on. There are people grieving every day of every year over the loss of loved ones. There are millions of children who die each year in the world. Oh, how horrible is our sin! “Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?” (Romans 7:24).
We can’t escape the fact that this world groans every day because of our sin:
For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. (Romans 8:22)
Yes, a tragedy like the one in Texas gets news headlines and brings to people’s minds the reality of death and a reminder of our own mortality and that life is short. That’s why it’s so important for people to hear and respond to the saving gospel message so they can know they will spend eternity with God and not be separated from him for eternity:
I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life. (1 John 5:13)
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We grieve for the families in Texas who lost loved ones. We grieve for families who lose loved ones every day of the year. We grieve over the state of this world and what our sin (yes, our sin—we sinned in Adam—we are all responsible) has done!
No doubt God will use this horrible tragedy for good. Certainly, it will remind people to think about their own mortality and eternity. No doubt we will hear of wonderful testimonies of how God’s people helped each other. I do not doubt that God will use all this to bring people to salvation. Yes, as Job came to recognize, we have to get to the point of letting God be God. Yes, it’s hard! Yes, we will struggle. Yes, we will grieve. Yes, we will question. But in the end, we pour out our hearts to God and trust him and recognize who he is as Job did:
I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted. “Who is this that hides counsel without knowledge?” Therefore I have uttered what I did not understand, things too wonderful for me, which I did not know. “Hear, and I will speak; I will question you, and you make it known to me.” I had heard of you by the hearing of the ear, but now my eye sees you; therefore I despise myself, and repent in dust and ashes. (Job 42:2–6)
And then we claim what God promised in his Word:
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:7)
Thanks for stopping by and thanks for praying,
Ken
Spread your challenges before the Lord!
The stories continue.
Stories of survival and tragedy.
Stories of heartbreak and joy.
Stories of heroism and great loss.
The floods of this past weekend will forever be engrained in the hearts and minds of central Texans…especially all who have lost a child, a spouse, a family, a relative, a friend. The events will never be forgotten and July 4th will have a very different meaning for these families moving forward.
I have found myself following the news, praying for more survivors to be found, and agonizing at the grief many are feeling. Hundreds of volunteers are exploring the riverbanks looking for any signs of life or the missing remains of souls now departed.
To be sure, the question of “Why?” continues. (See yesterday’s devotion). But maybe today’s question is to ask, “What do I do?”
Yesterday morning I was reading Isaiah 37 in my personal devotions. The situation around Jerusalem was intense. Sennacherib, the commander of the Assyrian army had surround Jerusalem and was seeking surrender. He claimed victory over many other city-states and claimed power over all the gods of these kingdoms. He simply thought the Lord was like all the other gods and could not be counted on to protect Jerusalem. So he had sent a letter to King Hezekiah of Israel and told him to surrender or be destroyed.
What we can learn from King Hezekiah? Here’s what he did:
Isaiah 37:14 Hezekiah received the letter from the messengers and read it. Then he went up to the temple of the Lord and spread it out before the Lord. 15 And Hezekiah prayed to the Lord: 16 “LordAlmighty, the God of Israel, enthroned between the cherubim, you alone are God over all the kingdoms of the earth. You have made heaven and earth. 17 Give ear, Lord, and hear; open your eyes, Lord, and see; listen to all the words Sennacherib has sent to ridicule the living God.
18 “It is true, Lord, that the Assyrian kings have laid waste all these peoples and their lands. 19 They have thrown their gods into the fire and destroyed them, for they were not gods but only wood and stone, fashioned by human hands. 20 Now, Lord our God, deliver us from his hand, so that all the kingdoms of the earth may know that you, Lord, are the only God.”
When I read this I thought how amazing and instructive this is and how often I fail to do what King Hezekiah does.
First, he puts the problem before the Lord. Every challenge, every hardship, every situation that seems insurmountable is one the Lord desires to be involved in and invited into. Hezekiah lays out the letter from Sennacherib before the Lord…in essence saying, “Lord, look at this. Here’s what I’m facing.”
Second, take the problem to the Lord in prayer. He recognizes the person and power of God and also recognizes the letter from Sennacherib was not just a letter to him and challenge to his power, but a letter that challenged the power of the Lord.
Third, pray with confidence the Lord will deliver in a way that his name will be glorified. In this case the Lord delivered Jerusalem from Sennacherib. Other times he didnt. But in the end, God was at work to bring glory to his name.
What’s the takeaway for us in this time of tragedy in central Texas?
Lay your heart and your concerns and your news articles and your social media feeds before the Lord. Invite him into your problems and concerns. Don’t try to handle these things alone.
Pray. Certainly pray for an outcome you think is best…but trust that the Lord will work an outcome for what he KNOWS is best. Pray that the enemy, Satan, does not win. He is at work to derail our trust and confidence in the Lord. Remember voices other than the Lord have opportunity to carry lies and deception, just like Sennacherib tried.
In this case, the Lord took out 185,000 Assyrians and Sennacherib withdrew.
Trust that the Lord will show up and ultimately bring glory to his name…even in a time of tragedy and loss. The Lord, his truth, his ways will ALWAYS win!
Apply: Read all of Isaiah 37. How can you follow the lead of King Hezekiah in the challenges you are facing and a) lay them before the Lord, b) pray to the Lord about them and c) trust the name of the Lord will always win, always be glorified!
Prayer: Lord God, thank you for giving us the privilege of prayer. Lead us to use it often. Thank you for having the power to work on our behalf and your willingness to use your power to protect, defend and show love to us. Thank you for the confidence that in every situation, of ease or challenge, joy or tragedy, your name will be glorified. AMEN.